A few months ago I went to my first ever Stake Youth Conference. It was amazing. One of the workshops was so profound that it literally changed my life, and I’d like to share it with you. It was taught by a returned sister missionary (whose name I forget, unfortunately) and it was called Make All Your Dreams Come True. At first I thought the name sounded a bit floofy if you will, but it turned out to be one of the most practical tips I’ve yet heard.
She started by sharing a quote by C.S. Lewis:
“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of – throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”
-C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity
First of all, this quote so beautifully describes the human experience. Secondly, what a lovely concept that God Himself lives in us. Thirdly, isn’t it so accurate that we underestimate our potential and forget that it is indeed divine, yet God sees a much more promising future for us?
The sister teaching the lesson’s first suggestion was to pray that Heavenly Father will show you your potential.
Then she drew a large Venn diagram (those two slightly overlapping circles) on the board. Above the left circle she wrote “What we want” and above the right circle she wrote “What God wants”. In the middle therefore is what both we and God want.
She had the class offer ideas of what might go in the left circle. Things that we pray daily for:
to feel loved
These can be things that we want but aren’t sure if God also wants them for us, or if they are right for us.
Then in the middle area, the class thought both we and God would want for us:
Then she went over to the right circle. No one could think of things that God would want for us that we wouldn’t also want. Then she wrote one word on the board: Trials. For me, that blew my mind. I guess I hadn’t really thought before that all the “bad” things that happen to me, God actually wants to happen. All the difficulties, all the tough life lessons, all the sad things, some of which I have overcome and some not. They have all been wanted for me by my Heavenly Father.
Now just to clarify, God wants trials for us because we learn and grow from them. He doesn’t want them because He wants to harm us; quite the opposite.
She finished out the list as follows:
sabbath day holy
difficult commandments to follow
Next, as if our minds weren’t blown enough already, she said that the purpose of prayer is alignment. She motioned pushing the circles together to overlap completely and create a single circle. The goal of prayer is to align the two circles so they are one. The only person who has done this, she said, is Christ.
Now if THAT wasn’t enough to change my perspective on existence forever, she continued.
When we ask for things in alignment, she explained, then we are asking things God can actually answer.
For example, if we ask God for something like to never have another trial ever, or to get married right this instant, or to help us achieve a goal that isn’t meant for us, He wont give it to us. And then how do we feel? Sometimes confused, sometimes frustrated or angry.
But, if we aren’t sure yet if what we are asking for is something God also wants, then how can we avoid this?
And here’s where she gave us one of the most practical tips I have ever heard:
First, ask God for something. Then say “but if not” and then ask for an alternative.
So often we ask for things and don’t give a second choice, so to speak. And if God wont give us what we ask for, it feels like our prayer just went unanswered and we got nothing. But if we ask for an alternative, God is then able to give us something.
prayer formula of sorts: 1 + “but if not” + 2
“help me to get married, but if not, help me to have faith in Thy plan for me”
“help me to get a good night’s sleep tonight, but if not, help me to have patience with my kids tomorrow”
“help me to pass my test tomorrow, but if not, help me to understand how I can study better for the next one”
Pray not to have your circumstances changed but that you in your circumstances might be changed.
After this workshop, I immediately put this tip into practice. I found that it not only comforted me — as I saw that even if I didn’t get what I deemed in the moment to be a necessity, it would be okay because there could be another great outcome besides my original choice — but it also helped broaden my perspective. It reminded me to trust Heavenly Father’s love for me by remembering that He only chooses things He knows are best. It helped me realize that my situation wasn’t nearly as dire as I thought, and that everything would work out just fine one way or another.
I am so grateful for that sister missionary and her amazing grasp of the gospel. I am also so grateful I chose to go to that lecture over another. I hope you gained as much as I did from this lesson, and that if you did, you choose to pass it along to someone else, too.
One night after Institute, we sat around chatting and asked the Elder who was here on exchanges where he’s from. “Pocatello,” he said. My ears perked up. I leaned forward so as to see Elder Hensley down the row and I asked, with low expectations, “Do you know the Shaytards?”
To my surprise he said he did, at which point I undoubtedly embarrassed myself with my enthusiasm (what else is new) and we got to talking about it. Everyone else in the room already knew me by then and had each already been asked by me if they knew you guys, or knew of you. It’s seriously (not seriously) like the second thing I’ve asked every Mormon I have met. So I think at this point we were all excited that someone finally said yes. I told Elder Hensley my conversion story and the major role you guys played in it, and he offered to send a letter to you if I wanted to write one. So, while this is one of the more intimidating letters I have ever sat down to write, here goes!
I started watching your vlogs two VidCons ago, after you were in Tanya Burr’s vlog, I think. I was instantly hooked. This was, what, a year and a half ago, and I haven’t missed a single vlog since. I was instantly struck by how different your family is – how loving, how energetic, how full of life. I think I doubted your reality the first few vlogs I watched. I had never – and still have never – seen any family like you. My family is loving and all that, but nothing like yours. We tend to keep our love for each other left to the imagination (haha). I definitely know it’s there, but we don’t express it so outwardly as you guys. And that’s something about you that I found fascinating – and still do, really.
After probably a week or two of watching you guys, I learned that you belong to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I remember thinking, “But… they’re so cool.” At that time, the only things I “knew” about the Church were all sorts of misconceptions. Seeing how epic you guys are definitely made me confused, so I was inspired to google the Church, at which point I discovered that not everything one learns on South Park is accurate. I thought, “Oh, this religion is actually pretty cool. But it’s not for me.” (I was a pretty passionate atheist at the time.) I was always curious about your one-take Sundays when there you’d all be in your church clothes, and you all seemed so happy. And often times you’d talk about what you discussed in church that day. I enjoyed passively learning about it. And every few months, something you’d say, Shay, would really strike me and I would be inspired to do a bit more research online. “That’s really cool. But it’s not for me.”
This happened maybe three times over that first year.
Also during that time – and here I am having lived in Iowa for the last 10 years – I had been wanting to move back to California. Seeing the palm trees in your vlogs certainly strengthened that desire. But then this summer you guys moved back to Idaho. And I realized that 1) Idaho is insanely beautiful, and 2) mountains are insanely beautiful. So, unhappy with Iowa, and scared of the California prices, I starting browsing housing prices in Idaho, just for fun. Not bad. I think I checked out Utah next. Mountains are pretty indeed.
Then, I, completely jokingly, had the thought, “Maybe I should move to Idaho or Utah and become a Mormon or something.” (I kid you not.) And then I was like, “…Maybe I SHOULD move to Idaho or Utah and become a Mormon.” (Insert wide-eyed expression here.) I think it was at this same time that I had the realization that if I did move there, I’d probably get along really well with all the Mormons there, because my lifestyle was so similar. In fact, I couldn’t believe that I had only just then made the connection that there were in fact other people who lived the way I did – and better even. “But, Mormonism isn’t for me because I’m still an atheist.”
Also at this time, I had the very new thought that maybe I don’t know as much as I think I do, about the existence of God or lack thereof. And I thought back to one of the first videos of yours I watched, which was you, Shay, in a hotel room talking about how if you get to heaven and God says Buddhism is the way to go, you’ll become a Buddhist. I think it was also in that video that you were saying that we don’t know the complete truth of the universe but that your beliefs make you happy so you’re sticking with them (paraphrasing). Back when I first watched that, I was very impressed with your humbleness about religion, by the way. And that very honest, real, yet hopeful perspective had stuck with me since.
So anyway, there I was standing in my kitchen and I had the realization that I’m not going to know either way if God/heaven exists until I’m actually there or I’m not. And therefore no amount of study and research on the matter will get me any closer to knowing – I just have to wait. And I realized that I had two choices: either continue living my life as an atheist, waiting until I die to know for sure; or live my life as a Christian (or any number of religions, in theory) waiting until I die to know for sure. And this realization really took me off my high horse. And opened my mind to the possibility that maybe God does exist.
I recognize that this letter is getting really long so I hope this story is interesting!
It was also at this time (so yes, the completely random thoughts to move to Idaho/Utah, to become a Mormon, and that maybe I don’t know as much as I thought, all happened in the span of a few days, as I remember) that I became suddenly SO INTERESTED in the Church. Like, SO interested. Out of nowhere. Again, I had been interested before, and researched for a half an hour here and there, but that was nothing like this. I researched online for 2-3 hours every night for two weeks straight. I loved everything I read. And I was fascinated. Is it possible that God exists? And that He loves us? Does heaven exist and can we actually live together with our families, in one giant family, with our loving Heavenly Father? Was Jesus real? Is He actually there now, and can He affect our lives?
I had the thought, “I want to join this church.” Then, realizing I had gotten ahead of myself, “Maybe I should go to church sometime, and, like, read the Book of Mormon first.” (Haha.) So, that Sunday, I… chickened out. (I had been to church maybe 5 times in my entire life at this point, 4 of which were before the age of 10.) But the following Sunday I went! I was sooooo nervous. I told myself on the way there, “I’m not going to sign anything, I’m not going to meet with the missionaries, I’m not going to commit to anything. I’m just going to show up, this one time, get myself a free copy of the Book of Mormon, and if I never want to come back, that’s fine.” I didn’t pay attention to anything in Sacrament meeting because I was sitting there thinking, “What am I doing here, why did I come here, I don’t belong here, I’m so out of place.” But then afterwards (and briefly before, too) I met some of the nicest people I have EVER met in my entire life. Everyone was so interested in why I was there and how I heard about the church. (Yes, I mentioned you guys!) I met the two missionaries, Elder Brooks and Elder Kilpatrick. They helped me with where to go the next two hours. Then there was a potluck afterwards that they and a few other people invited me to stay for, and I thought, “Why not.” It ended up being a great opportunity to chat with some people.
After the potluck Elder Kilpatrick found me again and asked if I’d like to meet with them sometime. Remembering full well that I told myself I was not going to meet with them, I thought, “Sure, why not?” (Oh, the power of inviting!!) We set up an appointment for Tuesday afternoon. I left church still amazed at the kindness and friendliness and love I had experienced from the complete strangers I had met there. And I thought to myself, “I want to come back.” I didn’t even care if I believed in the doctrine at that point – I wanted to come back for those people.
So, I met with the Elders on Tuesday, ready with the giant list of questions I had come up with and written down over the last two weeks while researching. Giant lists of questions proved to be my pattern throughout the lessons.
At the end of that first lesson, Elder Kilpatrick told me that September 13th seemed like a good day for my baptism and he asked if I would like to be baptized then, provided I felt ready by then. This question was OUT OF NOWHERE (well, not really, the church tour ended with us standing right there at the font) and September 13th was WAY TOO SOON (it was July 29th now) but I said, “Well…if I was ready…then…yes?” (Hahaha.)
If this was a novel (which I’m sorry it’s looking to become) then that would be the end of Part One.
Elder Kilpatrick’s mission ended that same week, and Elder Wardle took his place. Interestingly enough, I first met Elder Wardle outside Brother McConeghey’s car just before we all headed over to Nauvoo for the afternoon to tour the Temple grounds and see the pageant. This was on Thursday, just four days after I first went to church.
I continued to meet with Elder Brooks and Elder Wardle and sure enough on September 13th I was baptized (!!!). I was soooo nervous, because my parents were there, as well as my aunt and uncle and three friends. I have had mixed support from everyone. But at least they came to the baptism. And some came to church the next morning for the confirmation as well!
So that’s my story. It of course goes on, up through the present day, and is filled with temple trips and a calling and a talk and institute class; new friends, new perspectives, and a newfound faith in Christ. A few weeks after I was baptized, my parents and I went on a road trip to New England, and I requested a stop in Palmyra to go to the Sacred Grove and Temple. It was pretty epic. Elder Brooks was transferred while I was gone (sad day). But Elder Belliston came and took his place. I am still meeting weekly with him and Elder Wardle. I gave a 5 minute talk on Gratitude the week of Thanksgiving. I was called to serve with the Young Women. (I taught my first lesson in there today!) I am reading the Book of Mormon, albeit very slowly as I tend to get distracted (but how can I not, what with all those cross references??) and I am pretty much being as active as I can. Oh! I joined the choir two weeks ago!
And this may or may not be completely unrelated to my conversion, but I decided this summer to go back to college after a resentful 4 year hiatus to finish up my bachelor’s degree, which I just completed this month! Upcoming plans include [the tentative idea of] moving to Utah to find a husband (haha) and a job.
You might be interested to hear my testimony of sorts.
I feel like my entire conversion happened so smoothly. And also so randomly. I was not seeking. I was not looking to join a church. The idea completely randomly – even jokingly – came into my mind. I feel like the only way to explain it is that it was God’s timing. And He gave me each new step, and I took it. (Which is also so unlike me. I am so shy, why would I ever go to a church, let alone all by myself?!) And then He set the next step. And I took it. And He’s still setting them, and I’m still taking them. And thus far, I love it. I absolutely love it. The gospel is amazing. The love that Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ have for all of us is amazing. I am so, so glad I know about this Church and the restored gospel and that love. It has changed my perspective on the world, my priorities. I am so much more grateful. And confident. And so much more at peace with existence and the mysteries of life after death, etc.
A couple years ago, I became interested in Christianity, and I read the Bible, but I had so many questions, and so much of what I read on various Christian blogs didn’t make sense. (Like, why can’t we still have prophets today? And what about people who never learn about Christ before they die?) After a few months, the gaps and contradictions were too much and I figured it couldn’t be true, so I stopped praying and went back to atheism.
Who knows where I would be now if I never watched your videos. It was the light your whole family has that intrigued me so much. The pure love that you express so openly with one another. The kindness you have extended to strangers throughout the vlogs. And the general calm and confident and uplifted outlook you share with us. All of which is so rare these days and shines so brightly in comparison. I love you guys so much and I have learned so much about love and family from you. Colette, you are an inspirational wife and mother. The kids amaze me. Their selflessness. I don’t even know how one raises kids to be so giving and so mature. (Gavin is seriously more mature than I am – hah!) You’re all such a delight to watch and I feel so good knowing that I’m watching something wholesome and uplifting. I’ve also found your other channels and family’s channels through you guys, and they’re all so great.
I wish you guys the best and I have the utmost respect for you. Thank you so, so, so much for making your videos, and for not being afraid to be your awesome selves.
It was you guys being such a loving and happy family, and sharing what you had talked about in church those days, that first got me interested in the Church. So just know that it does good. It puts good into the world when you talk about it. And if it affected me, I don’t know how many others it must also affect. Keep sharing it. I know some people get down on you in the comments for it. But it’s just not their time. Yet.
Joyce says, “You can choose your own thoughts; you don’t have to just think whatever falls in your head. You can cast out wrong things and choose right things.”
That reminded me of something I saw on Twitter yesterday: @Leyla_N tweeted, “Thoughts come & go, you don’t have to believe them all. Choose empowering thoughts… take empowering actions.”
Its important to heed this advice because, as Joyce goes on to say, our thoughts are the place where worry really starts.
When faced with a problem, we can either worry or we can choose to trust God.
At this point in the video, Joyce said, “Worry, anxiety, reasoning – three major torments in our life.” I don’t think I fully understand what she means there. I really value reasoning as I think it can be an extremely powerful life guide. Is she suggesting that we forfeit all reason in favor of complete trust in God? Or was she simply saying that reasoning is one of our bigger problems – which I agree it iscan be. Reasoning is a powerful tool but too often in my own life I use it ultimately against myself. I try and reason my way in or out of things rather than follow my heart or my intuition. This goes hand in hand with over analyzing. In fact, this is one of the tougher balances for me to achieve in my life.
Joyce uses the word “violent” in reference to how we should cast out our negative thoughts. And I liked that because sometimes that’s how intense it needs to be! To think to yourself “I’ll probably fail” or “I can’t”… is there any room for those thoughts in your mind? There shouldn’t be. And when you find yourself thinking them, you should cast them out with force.
I read a piece of advice awhile back (I think it was inSecrets of the Millionaire Mindby T. Harv Eker – which, by the way, is an excellent book and one that I think everyone – literally everyone – should read!) that relates to this. It says that every time you have a negative thought, you should think (or even say aloud) “CANCEL.” And the theory is that this will help you to break the habit of negativity.
Next in the video, Joyce talks about being passive – which has been a real topic of interest for my lately. More and more I’m seeing how being passive is one of the worst things to do. Its so inefficient – nothing gets done. And when something does get done, its all you can do to hope it turned out how you would have wanted it. Being passive means not taking control of your own life. It involves sitting around, waiting, wishing. And as Joyce says, it requires no backbone. You think someone else should solve the problem.
Instead, Joyce suggests we be “aggressive against the enemy” (and here she’s referring to Satan, but we can also consider it to be any negative influence in our lives – such as my lack of motivation and passive behavior.) Stand up for yourself – there doesn’t have to be someone to stand up against, just take action and make change and accomplish something.
Now she makes a distinction here: “Worry sees the problem but faith sees the God who can handle the problem.” She says its not wrong to look at the problem – we need to look at it so that we can analyze it and figure out where it stands. But its a slippery slope to worrying and over analyzing.
She commented on the interesting social norm that some people feel like they aren’t being a good parent if they don’t worry about their kids. It made me think about the other areas of life where we’re encouraged to worry. I myself have been conditioned to feel pressure to worry about my future. Everything from getting good grades to getting into college, (you know the cycle) to picking a “realistic” major, getting a good job, paying your bills, etc. Basically: not messing up. These are great things to be aware of, and to keep in mind when making decisions and planning your life. And by no means am I suggesting you should ignore them or just completely wing it and hope for the best.
But the amount of pressure we can feel just causes us to have FEAR. Fear of messing up. Do you know anyone who has never messed up and who won’t continue to mess up? Its unavoidable, and that’s why this is a completely, completely irrational fear, and that is what’s unrealistic. (For some wise words on being realistic, check out this Will Smith video, at 5:49 in.)
What may be worse is the irony at play – I’m way less likely to take chances to better my life because of this fear of failure that I have, because of the fear of messing up my life, which stems from worry. But the likely outcome is that I will just create more to worry about! Whereas if I just trust in God (or trust in myself and my intelligence and my abilities, or whatever) then chances are, things would work out for me.
Joyce says that when we have trust, we can enjoy the journey. She also says, “When you pray and then you worry, the worry nullifies your prayer. Prayer is something you do instead of worry. Its not something you do with worry, its what you do instead of worry. … If we pray and then worry, we’re saying with our mouth that we’re depending on God but we’re saying with our actions that we don’t really believe that God’s going to come through so we’re going to worry and have a backup plan just in case he doesn’t.”
This makes me wonder how to find the balance between responsibility, avoidance, and trust. Is it safe to perhaps deny our seemingly bad situation under the trust that it will work out? Is it irresponsible to allow things to stay the same and not actively change them ourselves? And if we decide to make a change, how will we know when we are acting from ourselves (ie the backup plan) or acting from God? When our problem gets solved, was it us or was it God? How long do we trust God before giving up and trying to solve it ourselves?
But perhaps there isn’t some spiritual equilibrium to find. Perhaps no balance is required at all. Perhaps all we need is to trust in God. Maybe what’s unbalanced is when we decide to trust ourselves, because we are not nearly as deserving of trust as God is. (I guess then its a question of credibility.)
Having complete trust in God requires a huge level of surrender. Not only is that scary, but if it turns out to be a bad idea, then in hindsight it was pretty irresponsible and potentially dangerous. This worries me.
For me, I find that the subject of faith and worry is a catch 22. I worry about something, then wonder if I should just trust God. But as I’m not a religious person and thus not strong in any faith, I worry that trusting God might not be the correct solution. So now I’m not only worried about my initial problem but also about whether or not I should be worried. (And I do see the humor in this.)
It seems to me, that for someone who has faith that God exists and that He is good, then trusting Him completely is obviously the way to go. Why would you ever not trust Him? And if you trust Him, then it would make sense to also trust His timing. (I like this pin on Pinterest.) I see the logical progression here but what I am waiting on is that first acceptance. The acceptance that God exists. When/If I come to that conclusion, then I have a whole line of beliefs that will come with it. But its that first one, which determines the validity of the others.
That’s where my interest in Christianity lies, I suppose. In learning more and finding out more about God. And in the hopes that I will learn more about myself in the process.
I’ll conclude with a few lines that I particularly enjoyed from the video:
“God is greater than any problem that you have.”
“You’re talkin’ to yourself anyway, you might as well start saying something that makes sense!”
Do you have complete trust in God? How do you balance having faith and taking personal responsibility for the course of your life?
In Part 2, Joyce makes gives commentary on how we do something wrong and hold on to that guilt, and then do something else wrong and hold on to that guilt on top of the other guilt, and continue in this pattern until we’re dragging so much guilt behind us where ever we go. What a burden. What a waste of time and energy. It wastes our time because we spend time thinking out it, and worrying about it, and what does it accomplish? Nothing. We expend all this effort, trying to sort it out in our heads to make sense of it and get some sort of closure so we can move on from it, but yet it never happens. This is not the way I want to live anymore.
“Perfection involves growing. I’ve not arrived but thank God I’m on my way… So stop thinking about what you’re not, and think about the progress you’re making.” This could probably be applied to everyone. We all spend time thinking about what we’re not. A little of this is a good thing, because self-awareness is important if we ever expect to grow – we need to first know where we are and what we are and what we are not. Its only when we dwell on this and acquire guilt from this that leads us to problems. So instead, think about the progress you’re making. Think of where you were a year ago – are you in the same place? Some of us may be tempted to answer yes – I still live in the same town, I’m still at the same job, I still live with my parents, I’m still the same person. But if you look harder, you will probably see that you’ve grown. Well, I did learn a few new skills. And I’m more compassionate now than I was then. Being in the same place on the outside is not the same as being in the same place on the inside.
After reading Romans 6:10-11, Joyce says that we should put aside our lists of what we think we are and aren’t allowed to do – ie that which we fear God will get angry with us for doing – and that the closer you are to God, the more you’re going to instinctively know what is right and what is wrong, and, the more strength He will give you to do the right thing. This, she says, is how to be victorious over sin. So basically, don’t dwell on sin itself but rather live a holy life through God, thus getting the strength to overcome sin in the first place. And you will grow.
When Joyce was living in guilt, she not only worried about her past but also what sins she might keep doing. I really related to that because I have a lot of fear about potential future mistakes I might make. I feel like I for some reason wont be in control of myself later in my life. Like somehow I’ll make a decision I know I shouldn’t make, yet I wont be able to help myself when the time comes. I don’t know. Its not a very rational fear, but then, most fears are irrational.
Here are some of my favorite lines and concepts from part 2:
“When we go to God in prayer, we don’t go in our name, we go in Jesus’ name.”
Pray confidently, fearlessly, and boldly in your time of need.
The Bible says that we shouldn’t sin, but that just in case we do, Jesus has covered it.
To Paul: “You need some of my tapes.” LOL.
And again she reminded me that God wanted to form a relationship with me despite already knowing everything about me. Which is always encouraging to hear.
What did you think of this two part video? In what ways have you grown in the last year? In the last 5 years?
This video was immediately appealing to me because I often find myself feeling guilty, which is often accompanied by depression. Its not that I’ve done anything particularly horrible – I just feel really, really badly whenever I do something even remotely horrible. And I don’t let myself forget it. It keeps coming back. This is due in large part to the fact that I don’t control my thoughts (something that I’ve been researching more lately and trying to work on, as I think it is one of the biggest benefits I can give myself right now.)
I don’t know much about Christianity and have never been a religious person, but there is something undeniably appealing to me about Christians and their faith. In the last 6 months or so I have been researching Christianity and reading blogs and articles by Christians, especially women. I like what I read but there is so much more to learn. I’m currently reading the Bible (do you know how big that thing is?!) and I’m following Joyce Meyer on twitter which is how I found this video today.
For me, my guilt isn’t so much because I feel I’ve disappointed God; its more that I’ve disappointed myself. Or my parents. (Which feeling is worse? I couldn’t tell you.) But I still found tremendous benefit in this video with respect to guilt, and also just to learning more about God and the Bible.
“God is not the least bit surprised by you or your behavior… He knew everything about you when he invited you to come into a relationship with Him.” This thought is comforting because having a relationship with God seems like a big deal and like something that should be earned or deserved. And if we aren’t perfect (but who is?) then we can feel like we’re a disappointment to Him or not worthy of a connection. I’m not sure if that’s how I feel or not, quite honestly, but it’s nice to know that He already knows everything about me, because in that is a sense of acceptance. Because He knows me, and yet still chose to form a relationship with me, He must accept who I am and what I’ve done and where I’ve come from.
Joyce points out that if we keep the burden of guilt, we have no energy to learn and grow and serve God. Now, even for those who aren’t religious, this can apply. We have no energy to grow and learn, and do what we should be doing (whether its serving God or serving yourself or serving others). The feeling of guilt holds us back from living our lives and accomplishing goals and experiencing joy.
Joyce goes on to share a humorous story about going on a “guilt trip”, which is a pretty universal experience. The author went on this trip knowing it wouldn’t do any good. How many of us actually think feeling guilt will do some good in our lives? Yet does that stop us from doing it?
“Jesus has done everything for us that he’s gunna do – he’s waiting for us to believe it.” This line really spoke to me because it made me realize that I’m waiting on something more to happen before I cement my feelings on Christianity. What am I waiting for? Jesus has already done all that he’s going to do. And yes, there is much more of the Bible that I can read, and I can continue to form opinions as I do so. But this line really calls people to action, which I love. There comes a time – and the time is now – to make the decision to change your life. The Bible is right there. If you want to go with it and change your life in that way because it will bring you positivity, then what are you waiting for? If you want to go in a different direction, then what are you waiting for? The point is, pick something and take action. Stop wasting your time feeling guilty or doing whatever else it is that’s holding you back from being awesome. Fear? Fear of failure or rejection? If its depression, that can be hard to kick. But fear can be just as hard to kick.
“Guilt enters as a thought, creates a feeling, and we live by that feeling… If you’re smart you’ll say, ‘I don’t care how I feel, this is what I know’.” That right there is the key, I think. Right now I am letting myself be controlled by my feelings. I need to change what I know so that I can have something better to stick with instead of getting stuck in a bad mood when negative thoughts come up. And that is why I need to finish reading the Bible. Hopefully it will have some answers for me :).
I also liked the point about asking and receiving forgiveness. It’s easy to ask for it, but the real strength in that kind of prayer comes from trusting God enough to actually receive His forgiveness. Because in that, you are completely letting go.
Note: This video was part 1 of a 4 part series. Look forward to her other videos on fear, insecurity, and worry – which I plan to watch and write about soon.
Now, here’s some non-Christian-related words that I feel convey the same message to stop holding yourself back with guilt:
Believe in yourself.
Ready. Fire. Aim.
Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you’re right.
The only thing that makes it a part of your life is that you keep thinking about it.
*A few of those came from the pins I have collected on pinterest – feel free to check them out and many, many more that relate to this very subject. And please share in the comments some of your most inspiring!